Life Management.
That’s a tricky thing sometimes. We all have unique lives – different families, different work situations, different homes, different adversities, different likes and dislikes, different personalities, different everything. Because of the need to adapt strategies to fit our individual circumstances, learning how to manage our lives can be challenging.
A Little Background Info
I don’t think it is a secret that I have a deep belief in God and I am very active in my church. All leadership in the LDS Church is volunteer (this doesn’t include staff such as secretaries, media personnel, etc. who are employed by the Church and work a 9-5 job). That means that we, as members of each congregation, we are also the leaders and teachers to one another and are asked to serve in different areas to help the church run. For a couple of years I was in charge of teaching the 8-year-old children, another period I was asked to lead and teach young women ages 12-18, the most daunting task was probably when I was asked to be the music leader/teacher for children 3-11. That one definitely didn’t come naturally for me but I did it and learned a lot. I have had many responsibilities over the years in our church, starting at the age of 12.
We believe that part of our growth and development as people centers on these volunteer experiences in our church. They help us learn how to work with different people in a variety of situations, planning things or administering programs or teaching. These experiences help us become who we are, learn leadership and planning skills, teach us about the scriptures and church doctrine, as well as give us many opportunities to serve one another.

For the last year and a half I have been serving in the leadership of what is called the Relief Society. The Relief Society is a women’s organization in the LDS Church, founded over 150 years ago to administer to the poor and needy. It still serves that purpose, but has expanded to encompass the teaching and enriching of women as well as serving others. Although it is true that all women of our church as also part of the Relief Society, you don’t have to be a member of our church to be a part of what the Relief Society does.
One of the things that Relief Society works to do is to provide women with activities, learning opportunities and service experiences. That is what I am in charge of right now in our neighborhood and area of our church. I have a group of lovely, hard-working volunteer women who, as a group, help me plan ways to give women a chance to socialize together, learn uplifting things and serve others.

I know that many of you have similar involvement in your congregations and places of worship as well and can find many similarities to how these kinds of things work in the LDS Church. I tell you all of this simply to give you a frame of reference for what I am going to share with you this week.
I want to invite you all to participate in my experience with our neighborhood Relief Society this year. You don’t have to be a member of our church to do so – I invite you as my friend. I think that what we are focusing on is beneficial to any woman’s life – no matter your religious beliefs, economic background, place of residence or cultural heritage. Yes, some of the things that I will share will be religious in nature because that is why we’re developing the “Every Needful Thing” program in the first place. But I firmly believe that there will be much information that is applicable to anyone – which is why I still would like to share it with you…religious or not.
Our Focus for 2010
“I’m so stressed out!” “I can’t do it all!” “I don’t know how to organize my life!” Do these phrases sound familiar? I think that every one of us has felt those emotions and said those statements at some point in our lives – very possibly right now! I believe that we can choose joy and happiness despite our circumstances but let’s face it, real life can be crazy and busy and overwhelming, too. We have found that so many women in our neighborhood feel this way that we wanted to try and address this issue during 2010.
Our goal is to provide opportunities to help women learn how to manage their lives a little better – to have more confidence in their ability to sort through what is truly important; to be a little more efficient, a little more simplified, a little more at peace.
In the Doctrine and Covenants we find the following words:
This year we are going to work on establishing homes that are more focused on the things that matter most. No matter the family situation or religious views, we all can apply this principle to our lives. We are using the phrase “Every Needful Thing” as the center of our efforts as we work to figure out what is truly needful in each of our lives.
Now the interesting thing about this idea is that although we will be providing classes and workshops, tips and handouts to help teach strategies and principles of life management, each person will have the opportunity to decide for themselves “what is needful” in their own lives. Because we all have unique lives, we all have different things that are important – so it is up to each of us to gather the information, sift through it, and choose what we want to incorporate into our families or individual lives.
As I share this journey with you this year you will receive many things. First, if we are trying to teach how to manage our lives then we need some sort of place to manage the information, right? So, tomorrow I will give you instructions and downloads for completing the “Every Needful Thing” notebook that each woman in our neighborhood has the opportunity to create this month. It will have a place for all of the things that we will be using and learning about this year and will be a continual resource for each of us to refer back to.
Each day this week I will share a little more, both in information as well as downloads, regarding the foundation of the “Every Needful Thing” program. I invite you to participate in any way that you see is “needful” in your life. Perhaps you don’t want to create a notebook but you want to use some of the tips that we will share as the year goes on. Maybe you don’t want to print out the downloadable quote from today but you still want to concentrate on determining what is truly needful in your life. Whatever way you want to participate – you are welcome to do so.
Think of this as a FREE online workshop – it will have many of the kinds of things that I usually offer in my Big Picture Scrapbooking classes but we will do it together here on my blog. We’ll share our journey of determining “Every Needful Thing” together – something that I think all of us are striving to do better at.
Thanks for experiencing this with me. Please feel free to comment and ask questions as often as you can so that we can share our thoughts and experiences together.
I’ll see you tomorrow!



sounds very interesting….I’ll be looking forward to seeing what you are planning….thanks for including us on your journey
deb
Kolette,
Thank you for the lovely invitation. I took your class at CE and was impacted by your message and have been reading your blog ever since
I look forward to what you have to share.
Catherine
How interesting. I’m looking forward to this. My word for this year is Intentional so you can see how your Every Needful Thing works in with this.
Very interesting! I am curious to see what you are going to do. Thank you for the invitation.
Thanks Kolette! This is wonderful and I am totally looking forward to it. Who doesn’t appreciate a way to improve their life?
This is exciting…thank you!
Dancingly, Denise (who needs this very much in her quest to CREATE a life I love)
http://www.dancinglydenise.typepad.com
Thank you…I NEED this!
I can’t wait to follow along.
Sounds very interesting and something I really need right now. Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you Kolette, this is an answer to a prayer. I can’t wait to get involved in this project.
This is an answer to a very specific prayer for me. Thank you and thank our heavenly father for being so generous to His children, especially in the little things. I have started teaching a weekly ladies’ class at my church. I’ve been asked to do this kind of thing before and have relied heavily on DVDs and devotional-type books This time I am using material from all over. I have a book called “The ME I want to be” that is about “Flourishing” in the Spirit and that each of us is unique and designed by God for a specific life. I want this class to be practical – for all of the reasons you mentioned. This post is exactly what I have been searching for. I don’t think that it is by accident that I found your blog a couple of weeks ago. (I am familiar with you from BPS “Choosing Joy” and I took a class from you and your husband at Creative Escape) I want something we can hold and build on to help each of us find how we “flourish” in God’s plan for each of us as individuals. Thanks for sharing. I am look forward with eager anticipation.
Kolette – I can’t wait to join you on this journey. I have been struggling with how to balance my family, work and my church calling. I look forward to the focus for this year!
Kolette, Your post gave me CHILLS! My word for 2010 is WHOLENESS & my focus this year is on creating balance in all areas of my life. Wow. I can’t wait to get started with you! Thanks so much for all you do…
Kolette,
I love your blog a lot. I have never commented before, but I have read it for months and months. Your posts have inspired me many times (especially the ones about PPD – I had a baby girl, my 4th baby, in November, and remembering, and experiencing some of the things you wrote, I went back and read your blog posts about it, I cried a whole lot, and then got up and felt inspired!) I love love loved this post and just had to comment and say I am definitely going to do this, and am grateful that you are doing such a cool follow along, amazing project! I know 2010 is going to be a great year!
Melanie Segalla
Yeah! I am so excited about this! I appreciate the fact that you’re sharing this with us. I love the quote & the font & the artwork. Very nice.
this is wonderful – one of my favorite scriptures! I am so excited to see your ideas!
I am so loving this! It will go wonderfully with my visiting teaching! THank you SO much!
Thank you for including us in this project! I’m excited to learn more!
Perfect timing for me personally. I am so thankful for this opportunity and will follow with hope and gratitude.
What a wonderful idea!
Thank you.
I am SO excited to have this opportunity and share this journey with you! I didn’t feel I was ablt to commit to the class you and Jason did, but I’ve always been a fan. I too am a woman of faith and although we are not LDS members, have grown close to the elders from there. THANK YOU Kolette, for sharing this with us. I’m sure you can’t even begin to imagine the difference you will make through this in the lives of others! With blessing-Brynn
You are amazing! I check your blog each week for the download and am amazed at this new project! Thank you! I am so excited to follow this through out the year.
Beautiful concept. Simply beautiful.
Kolette, I think the thing that struck me most was your reference to your neighborhood rather than to your ward! I know you have lived in places where your ward was not your neighborhood, so you probably understand why this is such an intriguing idea to me. How would it be to have a neighborhood filled with women working toward the same goals? I will think a lot about that today–and I hope you are enjoying and appreciating the opportunity to serve your neighbors. I love your theme and am interested to see how it develops!
I am looking forward to this project. BUT every time I look at this post, all I can think about it how CUTE your yellow sandals are in the picture. ADORABLE!
Gotta love shoes by Born! I believe that those sandals go with everything. Favorites for sure!
Kollette-
Thanks so much for sharing this…This is one of my favorite scriptures and I have been wanting to find a way to display it in my home…yet fit my style (simple, clean, beautiful) You are awesome…This is so perfect!!
I was wondering if there is a way to print that scripture quote in different colors. (Whole thing brown/sepia tones or green?)
Kolette, this is lovely, thank you. You’re quoting one of my favorite scriptures
However, I think the actual reference is D&C 109:8. At least that’s what I find in my quad.
I think your ideas will be really useful to women everywhere. I can’t wait to see what you’re going to do next.
Thank you, thank you, Connie! I don’t know how I did that…no wait…sure I do…it’s easy to switch numbers around and make typos even though I check and double check. At least this one didn’t cost me thousands of dollars like it used to when I was having products manufactured! Ahhh….the joys of the internet and instant fixing of mistakes!