I admit. Last week was a little rough for me. I don’t think my hormones are back to normal and I found myself in the parking lot of Arby’s crying before going home on Wednesday. It just springs up on me – as I’m sure it does with other new moms – this sense of being overwhelmed or tired or frustrated or all of the above. I’ll be going along great and then all of the sudden I can’t get a handle on it. I think the root of last week’s parking lot scene was based on this:
I don’t know how to work and be a mom at the same time. I haven’t gotten a system figured out yet of how to do both and I do best when I have some kind of a system – even a loose one. Yes, I realize that the point of motherhood is that things always change and I can’t expect too much of a schedule, and all of that. We have a good routine going on and I feel like there are many ways in which Cole and I are in a good groove (I have the book “The Baby Whisperer” to thank for that – read this one first to get the idea then this one for more in-depth help – it is a similar philosophy as “Baby Wise” but I liked “The Baby Whisperer” series better). So we’re on a good track with sleeping and eating and all of that. But the work thing – I’m struggling to figure out how to be effective with my work plus be flexible with Cole’s growing and changing as well.
I know that we are all in different situations, have different needs, capabilities and things to deal with. I am a work-at-home mom who has control of my own schedule because my work is based on juggling deadlines. I get to decide when I work – whether it’s in the middle of the night or during the day. I simply have to meet my deadlines and get artwork or BPS content uploaded by a certain day.
That’s my work situation and I know that yours will be totally different. But what do you do, you working moms out there, to manage work and being a mom (which I know is also work) at the same time? I think I need some tips or strategies or maybe just reassurance that at some point it will be ok and I will get better at managing both.
Today’s download is as much for me as it is for you and I had to keep it simple. I was thinking it would be perfect on a card for someone who needs a little pick-me-up.
To be clear – I feel positive and happy and I very much love being a mother. I don’t dread getting up in the middle of the night, I don’t mind the laundry or washing bottles, and I think motherhood is the greatest job and opportunity on earth. But that doesn’t mean it’s not hard, too. I have help – both of Cole’s grandmas live within an hour and they love to come babysit or take Coleman to their house to give me a chance to work. I also send him to my sister’s house or my sister-in-law’s to hang out for the day. I like him to be around lots of people and to have to get used to sleeping other places and being in different situations than just home so that he can be adaptable. But what else can I do? Any ideas out there to help me figure out how to balance work and motherhood?
I have a feeling you’re all going to tell me to not be hard on myself and roll with it and that I’ll figure things out. So I guess I’ll start with advice to myself: Hang in there, Kolette!