Quote of the Day:
Jim (in the attempt to motivate): “Do you want me to show you how I can do it twice as fast?”
Of course you can do it twice as fast or twice as good or twice as long, Jim. That’s why people don’t pay me to be their trainer. Duh. If you couldn’t do it better with your fierce muscles then I would be concerned. So no, I don’t want to see you do it better than me. Thanks, though.
But in the spirit of the response, “No,” I am sitting here looking at a post-it note on my desk. It is a list of things that need to get done or things I am thinking about doing. One thing on the list involves a Christmas service project that would be a big commitment. This morning I am crossing it off my list. I have thought about it for almost a week, gotten the info so I can make a good decision about it and have decided that I need to say no to this particular project.
Jason and I always do some kind of Sub-for-Santa effort during the holidays but this new idea is over the top in terms of being able to manage and I’m not sure I can do it — so I’m moving on. We’ll do something else. But the key was giving myself a chance to think about it before I committed. Whether it’s five minutes, five days or five weeks, it’s often good to pause before we say yes to a new commitment. It removes the immediate pressure and helps us to think it through more clearly.
I realize that many people (especially women) feel guilty saying no to good causes or activities or events. But we don’t have to. It’s ok to say no. It’s ok to recognize what we can do and stop there. It’s ok to not be the same as our neighbor or friend or sister or mom when it comes to what we choose to do. It’s ok to volunteer in the classroom instead of being the PTA President. It’s ok to not have the perfectly cleaned house or perfectly groomed children or perfectly cooked meal. And it’s ok to say no to many of the plethora of opportunities that we are bombarded with in this day and age. Just because it is possible doesn’t mean it is good for us to take on.
So we’ll do something else this holiday season. There are many opportunities to serve and we’ll do the things that make sense for our family at this time. Besides, there’s always next year…and the next…and the next…